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how to talk to your employer and get the right support

Recognize the signs and get the support you need from employers

To others, it may seem like you are thriving and have everything under control. But, despite its outward appearance, you know something is wrong. You are constantly tired, you feel overwhelmed. Every decision or conversation feels like you’re draining of energy, and that nagging voice of self-doubt grows louder and louder.

If this sounds familiar, you may be experiencing burnout, or at the very least approaching it.

Although burnout is not a new problem, it is becoming more and more prevalent. And after the last few years, many of us are aware of what it means to be happy and healthy, and what our minds and bodies need to function at their best.

But even if you know something is wrong, asking for help can be the hardest part. So how can you tell your employer you’re having trouble?

Understand what may be causing it

When it comes to recovering from burnout, the first step is often to understand the root cause. Identifying potential causes can help you know exactly what support you might need from your employer and also indicate if there is something missing in your life. For example, have you been unusually busy at and outside of work, such that you lost the time you previously had to rest? When was the last time you did something for yourself?

Identify the help you need

Once you have an idea of ​​what may be causing it, the next step is to figure out what help you need. There may not be a straight answer, but having an idea of ​​what will help you can make the conversation easier later. Maybe you feel like there’s just too much work on your plate and delegating some of the work might help ease that pressure?

Of course, if you’ve realized that you’re unhappy with your workplace, you may decide that now is the time to move on. Although scary, taking that leap might be the best thing you can do.

Talk to someone you feel comfortable with

If you’re nervous about talking to your employer, can you talk to a friend first? Or is there a colleague you can confide in? Someone to be a listening ear while you try to figure out what you need. Just talking about how you feel can help you make sense of the situation when you can’t see the wood for the trees.

Read your company policies

Does your business offer wellness assistance? According to Mental Health UK, only 23% of people were aware of the plans in place by their employers to help them spot signs of chronic stress and burnout. While it’s up to employers to improve communication, if you’re having trouble, it’s worth reading company materials to understand exactly what’s on offer.

Reserve a moment to discuss

Knowing how you feel and what support you need will help make the conversation as easy as possible. Who you talk to will depend on the issue, but for general workload or job satisfaction issues, your manager is likely your first point of contact. If you feel mistreated or aren’t comfortable speaking with your manager, schedule a conversation with HR.

The best advice I can give from my own experience is to be as honest and open as possible. There’s no shame in needing a little help, and showing that vulnerability doesn’t mean you’re unable to do your job. In fact, you should be really proud of yourself.

Take care of yourself

It is also important to take care of yourself outside of work. Try to set up healthy boundaries to protect your energy; like finishing work on time, taking regular breaks throughout the day, saying no to extra tasks when you’re busy, and prioritizing self-care.

When you’re in the midst of a burnout, maybe you just need to rest and let your body and mind recover. But, in the long run, think about how you relax. Are there any hobbies you can start, like cooking or reading? Exercise is also a great way to ease tension and boost mood – maybe there’s something new you can try that you’ve never done before, or a band to you can join! Either way, put a limit around the things that bring you joy.


If you are looking for help in recovering from burnout, visit Lifecoach-Directory or talk to a qualified trainer.